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Terry Moore.
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February 29, 2020 at 1:50 pm #30581
Melinda Cocolas
ParticipantCan anyone advise me on some resources for working with a client with ruminations about revenge?
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February 29, 2020 at 4:52 pm #30583
Terry Moore
MemberMelinda,
Hmm – perhaps the place to start is to consider to what degree you are concerned about the client’s potential for dangerousness.
Psychological testing and/or psychiatric assessment? Sit down with your supervisor and sift through the case?
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February 29, 2020 at 8:15 pm #30584
Melinda Cocolas
ParticipantYes, definitely good ideas. Thank you.
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March 7, 2020 at 10:53 pm #30594
Celine Monif
ParticipantMy first question is whether your client has to work/interact with this person regularly (coworker?) or is it someone they can avoid? Second, is there some inherent reward to the revenge rumination (fantasy/satisfaction)? Otherwise I have heard of a few books mentioned in the past, although I have not read them. The first on is “Dealing with People You Can’t Stand”, a self-help book but more for the motivated. The other is “People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them the Keys”, told there was a Christian undertone to it (again, have not read them).
IF you have a really good rapport, maybe try confronting it? While doing family therapy, I once used a “speak and repeat” toy to replay a father’s words back to him when he engaged in juvenile revenge fantasies (high squeaky voice from a fuzzy hamster). He got a good laugh (client had a sarcastic sense of humor), said it sounded like something his child would say, and was able to recognize how irrational his comments sounded/poor role model for child – but definitely not for everyone.
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March 8, 2020 at 11:58 am #30596
Melinda Cocolas
ParticipantThank you, Celine,
I have tried to post some resources I found as well – three times now, but for some reason that post never seems to show up. I just tried again, in which case, maybe it will show up yet, but just in case, I am posting this thank you without any links, too.
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March 8, 2020 at 6:48 pm #30597
Celine Monif
ParticipantYou’re welcome. I’ll try to get someone to look at the site since the links are not popping up.
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March 8, 2020 at 8:30 pm #30599
Terry Moore
MemberI couldn’t post a message that contained a link either. puzzling.
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